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Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

It's All About Families



This September was to be a very special one for me and of course for Jim too.   Not only would I be able to see my beloved cousins again but we would be meeting  our "new" cousin, William and his wife Rita, also for the first time. 

William was adopted at birth.  Through nothing short of a major miracle, he found his siblings in December of 2013 due to a series of very fortunate events.  Those included his great desire to press on for 35 years to find his birth mother after he learned he was adopted.  His friend, Nancy, who does genealogy took an interest in his story.  She also persuaded him to do DNA testing.  That produced a trail to his father.  I had written a blog piece on my sweet Aunt Grace when she died and posted it on my family blog in 2008.  It contained pictures of her both at a young age and when she was older and of all the kids and her obituary.

 You can read about it here:

Nancy found the blog post via searching the Internet.  As a result of that Google find and the steps that preceded it, William discovered not only his father but his mother and five full siblings! I'll never forget the joy of that Christmas in 2013. When we all found out we rejoiced.  Every one of my cousins welcomed Bill with open arms and unconditional love from the onset!  What a precious gift!  It was overwhelming and wonderful to all of us.  It was a spiritual time, an emotional time and has been an ongoing celebration.  It is the miracle story that never grows old.

You can read about it here:
http://bonsblogbydesign.blogspot.com/2014/06/by-grace-of-god.html


Last week we went to Washington to meet William..Hot off the Press... The journey that took some years but was worth it!  You can read about it here.


I finally Met William!


Their Parents!


Together~This Time Forever!
My cousins are so happy
This is a powerful motivator
To keep looking for our families!
Unspeakable joy!

Monday, July 11, 2011

Keeping Our Priorities Straight


Using our time wisely is the balance we need
when pursuing our family history.
To everything there is a season!


Thinking about Family History and Genealogy can be overwhelming. The breadth and scope of family history encompasses so much. I like to think about Genealogy as first, gathering important information about your family from those relatives that are still living, then establishing a pedigree chart and family group sheets with proper documentation of your sources of information. As you carefully collect your data and gather your information you begin to establish the foundation for the research that you can now do electronically and through various other means, to begin to create your family tree.

By learning the methodology of research, and finding a way of organizing your files and documents that works for you, that tree of yours will hopefully begin to blossom, eventually dating back many generations. You want to be extremely careful in how you connect someone to their parents. One error there and your family tree will not be accurate. People have spent years barking up the wrong tree, so to speak. So careful research, analysis and documentation of where you get your information is extremely important. A genealogy is only as good as its documented sources. You must be patient and thorough. This takes commitment, dedication and time.

Family History is a broader umbrella that encompasses genealogy but is not limited to it. One question that comes up fairly often is how do we get people motivated to do this important work? It seems that the people that are not motivated cannot see why they should be. I think it is a legitimate concern. Some people wonder how they can possibility concentrate on the dead when the living take up all their time and energy? Also a valid thing to ponder. Some are just so busy getting through the hurdles of each day to even think about it.

Along with prioritizing the importance of Family History in your life's work, the sequencing of the steps to accomplish your goals is important. As an example, you need to download a software program before you can start to store your genealogy electronically. That may necessitate finding a good workspace, getting a computer, Internet service, etc.

It seems that if you have a house full of tiny ones, or you are currently unemployed or dealing with a serious illness, or any number of other big issues, family history can slip to the bottom of your pile pretty easily. But you can do something little to prepare, like getting a username and password for the use of http://new.familysearch.org. We often have that all or nothing kind of a mentality, thinking that it will just have to wait until we can devote ourselves exclusively to it. We all know that day never really comes and quickly the years come and go and little gets accomplished.

To me the most important thing is to realize that even though there is a season in a person's life when this work can be done more easily, there is no reason to put it off totally until that time arrives. Little by little much can be accomplished. Ideally your family history should be something you work on all of your life. It is never done so there is no reason to think that at some point you just stop. Family history is a living growing thing, just like your family life.

As you focus more consistently, even in small doses on this work (see YouTube 5 Minute Genealogy videos), you will truly begin to appreciate the eternal aspect of families and how one generation influences, shapes and contributes so much to the next. The reverse is also true. The descendents of a person also contribute so much. We are so blessed to be able to look in both directions for a wonderful and balanced legacy of family life.

The Lord knows all of this! He has not asked us to do this work just as busy work. He never asks us to do something that doesn't bring glory to his name, bless us and bless others.

Matthew 22:37-40 37Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. 40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets."

He knows who belongs to which family! The ancestors that become lost to us are not lost to him! He has asked us to do it because of the benefit and understanding it brings into our hearts and minds and to benefit others. It is also a way for us to help build his kingdom and to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man (his children), which is God's work and his glory.

This is a fact; we love whom we serve. We will never find the time, we have to make the time. When he asks us to do something he will provide a way for us to accomplish it, if we but ask. The first step of an active faith is to act. We must make the move..get on the road.

Take the first steps...it is a lovely road!

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Riding the Wave of Our Legacy


San Francisco,
July 2o11

When I was at the Genealogy Conference this past week one of the speakers said, "We don't have to create the wave we just need to learn how to ride it."

He was speaking of the rapid advancements in technology and the digitization of the world's genealogical records that are being made available to all.

It just made me think of this photo I took a few weeks ago and how this surfer was struggling to ride that wave against tremendous counter forces. The surfer was making a gigantic effort to stay on top of it, he had a great passion for his sport, but that wave was like a bucking bronco. But he managed through sheer grit, determination and practice to stay upright.

It is how I have often felt about genealogy. I love it and I know I am supposed to be doing it but that bucking bronco wave has been a challenge. Not because I didn't have the passion...well, qualifying that, it was budding, shall we say? It is a perennial flower in my garden and has been popping up in one way or another all my life. Who else do you know that completed their own baby book at age 7 because their mom was too busy taking care of her family?

Working 8 hours one day a week at a Regional Genealogical Center requires that you know something. Well, I think I do know a lot about it having been at it periodically for about 30 years. I have always had the desire. Problem was, it was more off than on, when it came to actually DOING it while raising kids, working full time, taking care of my mom and, doing my church callings, etc. etc.

So the last 8 months have been like starting over in many ways. Genealogy is a living, ever-changing, huge beast, in spite of its preoccupation with the deceased. They may be resting in peace but we who are searching for them are not. At least not those of us who only have an inkling about HOW to do the research.

This conference was my piece de resistance, it was the thing that changed my paradigm from thinking I will never get this to...yes, I will. In a play on words, it was what brought the peace to my resistance. It helped me visualize the big picture and helped me fill in some of the holes in my Swiss cheese conception of the whole thing.

The Dashing of My Resistance Upon the Rocks!

At the Family History Conference I was able to spend a whole week with people that enlightened me and inspired me, and taught how things that seem impossible can be achieved one step at a time. I got a glimpse from their brilliance of what is possible. I love each of those teachers for what they have given me. The generosity in sharing what they have was incomparable. I want to be able to help people in that way someday.

Well, I am no genealogical surfer yet and that wave is huge and frightening and moving lots faster than I am. But I am finally standing up on the board, metaphorically speaking, and I love it. I am excited and determined to learn as much as I possibly can while I continue on with my family history through blogging and researching our family tree.

Jim and I are both going to learn this stuff and share it! We want to pay it forward! We are not retired ~ we are just rewired! The blessing of discretionary time is the option of choices. Now to determine the way I am going to accomplish this work little by little, precept upon precept. I have already made a to do list that is several pages long.

Some of Aunt Jean's flowers from
her recent memorial service.


A very special thank you to Dan Lynch, D. Josh Taylor, Ransom Love, Barry Ewell and most especially, Stephen Ehat. You are my heroes! Wild Horses couldn't keep me (and hopefully us) away from this conference next year. And it will take me at least that long to learn and begin to practice the information in the syllabus from this year!

"You are not dead and gone until you are forgotten."
Another quote from the Conference.